We come into this human form with a unique opportunity to make the best of our genetic make up and its impact on our physical and emotional lives. We also live a unique combination of opportunities and challenges. There has never been anyone just like us, and there never will be.
My high flexibility is both an intellectual way of being and a genetic trait, and that high flexibility has provided me with both risks and rewards. When I was a classroom teacher and university professor, I taught my students about Bena Kallick and Art Costa’s 16 “Habits of Mind.” These habits are behaviors of effective problem solvers who can call on any of the 16 dispositions when faced with a problem that doesn’t have an obvious answer. One of the 16 habits of mind is thinking flexibly. This habit is characterized by being able to see options and consider alternative points of view. My intellectual flexibility has helped me embrace the reality that I am able to communicate with spirit, and that flexible thinking has had tremendous rewards, despite the skepticism of those who have not had similar experiences.
The genetic aspect of my high flexibility was first discovered by a pediatrician when I was an infant. He noticed that I did not have creases on my buttocks which indicated I had been born with shallow hip sockets. I wore braces on my hips for many months to improve the functioning of the legs and hips. It wouldn’t be for another 60+ years before I received the formal diagnosis of Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, hypermobile joint type. After more than 70 years of genetic high flexibility, I have now lost the ability to come to a seated position, and return to a standing position, without the aid of my arms and hands to ease my way down and propel myself back up. I have been searching for a solution for nearly five years, and that has led to some loss of hope for a “cure.” My spirit guide Holly had this to share with me:
Holly: Focus on all the ways your mind and body function well for you. It is easy to get caught up in injuries and limitations, but that is an example of looking at the trees rather than the forest that is your life. How often have you expressed gratitude for the aspects that are highly functional? And, how often have you expressed gratitude for the aspects that need support and healing? Be grateful for all you are still able to do while simultaneously supporting and nourishing the aspects that cause you pain and/or concern. This may surprise you, but your body is aware of your thoughts of loving-kindness and disgust and/or anger that are directed its way. Imagine your body as a loved one you adore, and shower it with love, compassion, and grace.
Here was Holly inviting me to call upon my intellectual flexibility so I could show love and support for the physical aspect of my flexibility. And so I did! As synchronicity would have it, a friend with joint hypermobility told me about a wonderful book called Disjointed. It is the best resource I have read related to all the physical and emotional manifestations of hypermobility. I found an online collection of videos created by a hypermobile body worker from the UK, Jeannie Di Bon, and the Facebook community she sponsors, The Zebra Club. I also ordered two of Di Bon’s books as additional resources to help support my body with healing and loving movements.
There is only one human who is your unique blend of genetics and life experiences, and that combination has presented you with challenges and rewards. We will encourage you to see your greatest challenges as opportunities to shower that aspect of yourself with love, compassion, and grace. Soul Bridge Coaching and Holly, December 28, 2021